Many wives struggle with expressing their needs. You might feel like you’re nagging or being selfish, so you choose to stay silent. But quietly suffering doesn’t fix anything. In fact, it slowly builds resentment and disconnects your hearts.
Your husband may not always know your needs automatically. If you need something, whether it’s more emotional support, help around the house, or even just quality time, you need to speak up.
Remember what Esther did when she needed to speak up about how people’s lives to her husband the king?
“Go, gather together all the Jews who are in Susa, and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my attendants will fast as you do. When this is done, I will go to the king, even though it is against the law. And if I perish, I perish.”
Esther 4:16 NIV
Pray about what you want to share with your husband first before you approach him.
Ask God to give you the right words, the right timing, and the right attitude when expressing your needs.
Pray for courage to be honest, but also pray for a gentle and respectful approach that invites your husband to listen and respond to your needs.
A prayer to ask God to help you express your needs honestly in marriage.
Dear Lord, please give me the courage to speak up about my needs honestly and respectfully. Help me choose to speak up instead of expecting my husband to figure things out without communication. Where I harbour anger, resentment, and frustration, I pray that you reveal it to me and help me let go. Show me how to ask without making selfish demands, judging, or criticizing. When I do share, let my husband be receptive and honour my needs in Jesus’ name, Amen.
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Pray For Communication in Marriage: 21-day Guided Prayer Journal Printable
Related Scriptures
James 1:5 NIV
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
Proverbs 15:1 NIV
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
