The words your husband speaks to you and about you have power. More importantly, they reveal the state of his heart. …for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh. (Luke 6:45)
Hurtful, rude and mean words cause constant arguments and heartaches. If left unresolved, this pattern leads to resentment, which can discourage your love for each other.
On the other hand, healthy, pleasant words are …sweet to the soul and health to the bones (Prov 16:24). They build your relationship and love for each other over time.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: And they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
Proverbs 18:21 KJV
Pray for your husband’s communication. Pray for him to think of you with love and to communicate that love in the way he speaks. Ask God to help him be gentle, loving, kind, patient, and understanding.
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A Prayer for Your Husband’s Communication in Marriage
Dear Lord, I ask that You teach my husband {husband’s name} how to control the words he speaks. Let him restrain himself from using words that would pierce my heart especially when we are in conflict. Help him choose words that are pleasant and edifying, words that lead to life. When he needs to express his needs and concerns, I pray that you give him the right words at the right time. When he communicates with his children, help him find the right words. Give him discernment to know when to speak and when to keep quiet. Lord, I pray that no corrupt communication will proceed out of my husband’s mouth in Jesus’ name, Amen.
How to Pray for Your Husband’s Communication
Below are powerful prayer points with Scriptures to help you pray over your husband’s heart, his thoughts, his words, and your conversations.
1. Pray for Your Husband’s Heart Posture
Luke 6:45 (KJV)
“A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good… for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.”
A man’s words come from what he thinks, feels, and believes.
If his heart is weighed down by stress, fear, bitterness, or shame, his communication will reflect that. This is why you need to pray for his heart first, before his words.
Dear Lord, help my husband {husband’s name} have healthy, loving, and positive thoughts toward me. Remove any bitterness or resentment that weakens our connection. Give him a pure and understanding heart. When he feels anxious or fearful about our marriage, teach him to surrender his thoughts to You. Let his heart be merry and full of joy, and let his thoughts about me and our marriage be good and life-giving.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
2. Pray for Your Husband’s Self-Control in His Words
Ephesians 4:29 (KJV)
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying…”
God can also influence your husband’s tone, body language, and choice of words. This prayer helps you ask God to guide the words he speaks, especially during conflict.
Dear Lord, teach my husband {husband’s name} to control the words he speaks. Help him restrain himself from words that hurt, especially during conflict. Give him wisdom to choose words that bring life, peace, and understanding. When he speaks to our children and me, help him use the right words at the right time. Let no corrupt communication come out of his mouth.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
3. Pray for Your Husband’s Communication Skills
James 1:19–20 (KJV)
“…let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath…”
Most people were never taught how to communicate well. With God’s help, your husband
can learn how to listen, how to express himself, and other important communication skills.
Dear Lord, teach my husband {husband’s name} how to communicate with wisdom. Help him be a good listener and slow to anger. Give him clarity when he speaks and patience when emotions rise. Show him when to speak and when to be quiet. Grow his interest in our conversations, and help me communicate respectfully and clearly.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
4. Pray for Honesty and Openness
Ephesians 4:25 (KJV)
“…speak every man truth with his neighbour…”
Honesty creates safety and trust in marriage. If your husband struggles to open up, he may not know how to share his emotions or needs. This prayer invites God to help him open up and be honest.
Heavenly Father, help my husband be open and honest with me. Teach him how to share his feelings, thoughts, and concerns. Give him confidence to speak truth even when it’s difficult. Help me listen without judgment, so he feels safe to express himself.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
5. Pray for Your Husband’s Discernment and Understanding
1 Peter 3:8 (KJV)
“…be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another…”
Both of you need discernment to understand each other’s needs, emotions, and perspectives. This prayer helps you ask God to give your husband a compassionate, understanding, and wise heart.
Dear Lord, I ask that You give my husband (husband’s name) a discerning and understanding heart in our marriage. Let him be compassionate and empathetic, especially when he doesn’t understand or when we are in conflict. Give him wisdom to understand my needs and help me communicate clearly and lovingly. Where I may not be seeing things from his perspective or misunderstanding him, I pray that You give me wisdom and discernment as well. In Jesus’s name, Amen.
Prayer Journal for Communication in Marriage
Go Deeper.
If communication is an issue in your marriage, I suggest you make some time to pray over it. The Bible says that we lack because we do not ask. Invite God in and let Him guide you and fight for you.
To make it easy for you to pray consistently, we have a 21-day prayer journal for communication in marriage. This journal contains daily prayer prompts and scripture to reflect on in your prayer time. You can use it as inspiration and then continue as the Holy Spirit leads.
The journal is available as a paperback on Amazon here or as a printable (e-copy) that you can download instantly here.
