Have you ever felt that you were not communicating in your marriage? For example, you may lack the right words to speak up, you or your spouse may get very angry when having conversations, or you may be unable to let go of things that happened in the past. If this is you, you need to pray for your marriage communication.

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Part one: self-Reflection Communication Prayers

In this three-part prayer series, I will share seven powerful prayer prompts for communication in marriage over the next three weeks.

The first week will be on self-reflection, where we will pray over your past and personal issues that affect your communication. Then, follow up with praying for wisdom to know how to communicate in marriage in the second week. Lastly, we will pray for communication areas affecting your relationship in the third week. The prayer series is based on our guided prayer journal for communication, which you can get on Amazon or download as a printable here.

1. Pray that you overcome the past 

Dear Lord, I pray for healing from any fears or trauma that prevents my spouse and me from communicating. Show us where we have learned to hide, avoid, or cower from speaking up as a result of trauma and help us overcome it. Reveal unhealthy habits we learned from the past and help us change our behaviors. Lord, we submit every trauma, memory, and destructive behavior into your hands. We want to change, but we struggle; please help us, LORD, in Jesus, name, we pray, Amen

2. Pray For The state of your heart

Dear Lord, I pray that you analyze my heart and show me where I harbor unhealthy thoughts and feelings about my marriage. Help me not to focus on my fears about marriage and instead submit them to you. Let me think about good and healthy things and overcome any resentment and unhealthy expectations. I also submit my spouse’s thoughts, life, and feelings and ask that you remove unhealthy thought patterns that work against our marriage. Help us put our trust in You and come to You with all our needs in Jesus, name. 

3. Pray self-control when communicating in marriage  

Dear Lord, please help us have self-control with our emotions when we have difficult conversations. Help us withhold words that, if spoken, would cause harm or pain in our marriage. Let us remain respectful and kind even when we get angry. Teach us to be quick to forgive and be patient with each other. In Jesus, name, Amen

4. Pray for honesty and truthfulness in your marriage 

Heavenly Father, please help my spouse, and I remain open and honest in our marriage. Forgive us for the times we have been dishonest to each other, and help us take responsibility for our actions no matter how difficult the conversation. Teach us how to communicate our needs and concerns honestly and help us be open with each other. Help us confess our sins and pray for one another that we may be healed. Destroy any relationships that may lead us to lie or be unfaithful to each other and help us remain loyal and faithful in Jesus’ name, Amen.

5. Pray for patience when communicating in marriage 

Dear Lord, please show me where I am impatient with my spouse and help me be empathetic. Where I am easily agitated, help me be less offended and more tolerant of my spouse. Give me a forgiving and understanding heart, and let Your peace rein in our home in Jesus’ name. Amen 

6. Pray that you don’t judge your spouse 

Heavenly Father, please forgive me for the times I have judged my spouse or thought myself better than them. Show me where I am proud and self-righteous, and help me be humble and empathetic. Let me be open to seeing things from my spouse’s perspective without judging and instead help me be willing to understand. Help me accept my spouse the way You do, and let me be more appreciative than critical. In cases where I need to disagree, please give me the right words. Help me be patient and kind when expressing my concerns and let my spouse give me a listening and empathetic ear. I pray that our disagreements will not cause a rift but that we will communicate with love, respect, and empathy in all situations. In Jesus, name, Amen. 

7. Pray that you have boundaries when communicating

Dear Lord, please give us discernment to identify the kind of people and conversations that are a risk to our marriage. Let us not involve ourselves in irrelevant babble that leads to ungodliness (2 Tim 2:16). Let us not gossip, slander each other, or divulge our family matters outside because of a lack of self-control. Help us guard our mouths and restrain our words. Forgive us where we have had inappropriate conversations and destroy any relationships that lead us to sin. Let us not flirt with people outside our marriage or entertain conversations that would be deemed inappropriate. Help us respect each other even when we are away from each other, and develop appropriate boundaries in our communication within and outside our marriage in Jesus’ name, Amen.

21 Guided Prayer Journal For Communication in Marriage:

A prayer journal with prompts to help you pray for communication in your marriage.

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Encouraging Words

and call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me.”

Psalm 50:15 ESV

Submit your marriage communication issues to God and He will show you what to do. God has promised to give you wisdom generously if you ask (Read James 1:5). You don’t have to accept feelings of loneliness in marriage. Submit this issue to God and ask Him to lead you to get help where you need it, for example from a church counsellor, or marriage therapist.